Live Fearless!

Just Do It!

"I'd rather regret the things I've done than regret the things I haven't done."

You might have got the idea what I'm going to write about in this article by the very first line written above. I'm not going to write a big lengthy essay on why we should be doing things fearlessly and why we should do more and regret less. All of us have gone through this feeling a million times, when we lay down in the night and wonder how our life would have been if we had the courage to do the things which we didn't do because of many "excuses". And no, I'm not going to talk about the YOLO bullshit, because I believe that all of us are smart enough to not drive a car at 120 mph with our eyes closed and say You Only Live Once, lets do something crazy! What's more important is focusing on more important aspects of life and doing them fearlessly.

After feeling this regret a dozen times, I finally came up with a simple logic which I every time use to convince myself whenever I have to stretch myself beyond my limit and go an extra mile, be it physically or mentally.

It works most of the time for me, so I wanted to share it with you also. Here it is:

Whenever you get an opportunity to do something which you have always wanted to do, but somehow you have been holding yourself back by some kind of fear or silly excuse, just close your eyes and ask yourself, "How bad am I going to feel later if I don't accept this challenge, cursing myself that ahhhh.. why didn't I do it?" When you have convinced yourself that not taking the challenge is bad for your future feelings, reinforce your will by asking yourself, "How good am I going to feel after all of this gets over and I've put in best of myself, whatever the result might have come?"

Be logical about your answers and don't let your fears and excuses weigh down your will.

A very simple example that I can give, where this works for me quite well is, going to a gym! All of us know that working-out is kind of a painful and boring task to do (I'm not taking the fitness freaks into consideration!), but whenever I have to buck up myself, I just say to myself, "Do it now dude!, it's going to make you feel better and more confident later." and Bam! I get the energy to do it.(at least at that moment of time!)

Same concept goes for stretching yourself beyond your mental limits and fears also. Public speaking, one of the most common fear we face, can be overcome by reasoning yourself that, "Just do it! When you are done with it, you are going to feel good and more confident about yourself."

I hope my little trick works for you as well.

Live fearless as it is very well said,

"Becoming fearless isn't the point. That's impossible. It's learning how to control your fear, and how to be free from it."

Quote - Abraham Lincoln

Winning an argument - Is it really necessary?

Yesterday I saw two people having an argument with each other. At first glance, it seemed as if they were trying to put up their point of view or were trying to justify their action. (Please note that they were not just passerby in whose conversation I was peeking in, they were my colleagues). But later I realized, that on the later stage of the argument, it was not about making the other person understand, but just about winning the argument, at any cost.

I related myself to this situation and pondered over it and came to the conclusion that even I sometimes do the same thing. If you also give a little thought to this, then you may also realize the same.

The question then arises is, Is it really necessary to win every argument?

Battle or War?

If the argument is heading in the direction where none amongst the two is really willing to understand the situation, then two scenarios may arise.

One, you are totally sure that your point is valid but still the argument is going in an absurd direction. If the other person is arguing insensibly and you've realized that your efforts to make your point out of logic will be wasted, then the wiser way would be to leave the argument at that time. (Keep in mind that you are later going to show the other person that he was wrong). Then later at the right time, when the other person is in the state of mind of understanding your words, then talk to him and make him realize his mistake. You may also use your actions to demonstrate how the other person was wrong (Actions speak louder than words!). Remember, and argument is not about concluding who's right and who's wrong, but about coming to a common understanding ground.

The other scenario can be, that in the middle of the argument you realize that you are wrong. I know this is an awful moment, but remember, it is not about if you're right or wrong. It is about making the other person understand you and also at the same time extending yourself to understand the other person. If you accept that you were wrong, when you really were, then this will not make you a loser, but it will show that you are a mature and wise person and in turn will earn more respect for you. Moreover, winning a heart is more important than winning an argument, especially if the argument is with your loved ones.

So next time you are in an argument, just ask yourself, "Am I arguing to come to a common solution or just to make a point?"

A Thought Worth Thinking

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Realise the power of Now!

Human Heart!

"O poor, unthinking human heart! Error will not go away, logic and reason are slow to penetrate. We cling with both arms to false hope, refusing to believe the weightiest proofs against it, embracing it with all our strength. In the end it escapes, ripping our veins and draining our heart's blood; until, regaining consciousness, we rush to fall into snares of delusion all over again."

- Rabindranath Tagore, from the short story The Postmaster